Have you found yourself in a difficult patch in your recovery, but you don't know how to deal with it?
Firstly — a setback doesn't mean you have failed.
Often, we resort back to old behaviour when we become triggered by situations, or when we are facing new challenges we've never dealt with before. Remember that there are new tools and ways to cope with these things that can bring you the same sense of relief that old patterns used to bring you. You can pick yourself up and start again, no matter how hard things have been. It starts with making a decision to at least try.
Here are some things that might help you move through this and back on track:
1. Get honestTell someone you trust — preferably someone who has known about your journey and won't judge you. If you don't have a specific person, try posting in an online support group, attending a support meeting, or simply getting honest with yourself by writing it down. The more we bring into the light, the less darkness we experience.
2. Forgive yourselfLet go of what has happened and look at how you are going to take the next step forward. What's done is done, and beating yourself up about it will only make you feel worse. Take responsibility, but don't cripple yourself because of it.
3. ReflectSpend some time assessing the events, thoughts, and interactions that led up to this moment so that you can identify what your triggers were. Identifying triggers helps you to recognise them when they arise again so you can take preventative action next time.
4. Keep goingNo matter how many times you fall, the important part is that you pick yourself up again. Remove feelings of self-pity or anger and simply start again.
5. Nourish yourselfIt is vital that you continue your healthy, balanced eating and don't try to "make up for" or counteract anything. Just keep going from where you are. If you're unsure how to proceed, consult a professional.
6. Celebrate your recoveryTake some time to focus on the growth you have made. Know that you can keep growing no matter how far back you feel you've gone. What milestones have you achieved recently?
7. Put in the actionWhatever you need to do to support yourself right now — do it. Do you need to reassess your support team? Remove yourself from a difficult situation? Reach out for professional help? Do whatever is needed, no matter what. And if you're struggling to do it alone — ask for help.
There is no shame in having a hard patch. There is always a way to start fresh. I hope this has helped, in the same way it helped me on my own recovery journey.
If you need support, please don't hesitate to reach out. I am always happy to help or point you in the right direction.